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Nene and Nnaemeka are a young couple living in Lagos, Nigeria, who plan on getting married. In the opening conversation between the two characters, Nnaemeka expresses his concern about notifying his father about their upcoming marriage. Nnaemeka's father, Okeke, is from the Ibo tribe, where traditionally the parents choose a bride for their sons, and he will not accept Nnaemeka's decision to marry a woman on his own. Since Nnaemeka has received a letter from...

Nene and Nnaemeka are a young couple living in Lagos, Nigeria, who plan on getting married. In the opening conversation between the two characters, Nnaemeka expresses his concern about notifying his father about their upcoming marriage. Nnaemeka's father, Okeke, is from the Ibo tribe, where traditionally the parents choose a bride for their sons, and he will not accept Nnaemeka's decision to marry a woman on his own. Since Nnaemeka has received a letter from his father stating that Okeke has chosen him a bride, Nnaemeka decides to visit his father and tell him the news face to face. When Nnaemeka informs his father that he plans on a marrying Nene, who is from a different tribe, Okeke disapproves of the marriage and shuns his son. Nnaemeka leaves for Lagos and hopes that one day Okeke will relent and accept him and Nene into his life. Unfortunately, Okeke remains obstinate and refuses to acknowledge Nnaemeka and Nene because they have broken tradition. Years pass and the married couple grows into a loving family and is accepted by the Ibo members living in the city of Lagos. At the end of the story, Nene sends Nnaemeka's father a letter informing him that he has two grandchildren. Nene asks Okeke if she can send them to visit their grandfather. After reading the letter, Okeke begins to feel guilty and looks out into the stormy weather as he worries if he will ever be able to make it up to them. 

Marriage Is a Private Affair

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Summary/Paraphrase Chinua Achebe – “Marriage is a Private Affair”

Setting – the action of this story takes place in two locations Lagos, Nigeria – a modern city An Igbo village in Nigeria

Characters –
Nene – fiancée and later the wife of Naemeka; she is from the Ibibio tribe. She has been educated at the university and is a school teacher. She is a modern young Nigerian woman who wants to be accepted by her husband’s father.
Naemeka – young Nigerian man from the Igbo tribe who has moved to the city of Lagos and has fallen in love with Nene. He realizes that his father will not approve of his marriage but he goes ahead and marries the woman he loves.
Okeke – Naemake’s father; very religious; a rule follower; believes in…show more content…

She has been educated at the university and is a school teacher. She is a modern young Nigerian woman who wants to be accepted by her husband’s father.
Naemeka – young Nigerian man from the Igbo tribe who has moved to the city of Lagos and has fallen in love with Nene. He realizes that his father will not approve of his marriage but he goes ahead and marries the woman he loves.
Okeke – Naemake’s father; very religious; a rule follower; believes in traditional view that marriages should be arranged by the families, that people should never marry outside of their own tribe. He is the most dynamic character in the story and undergoes the greatest change when he feels remorse for rejecting his daughter in law and plans to make it up to her as soon as possible at the end of the story. Ugoye Nweke – woman that Naemeka’s father has arranged for him to marry

Plot summary Exposition A young man from an Igbo village meets a young Ibibio woman in the city of Lagos, Nigeria. They have fallen in love and intend to marry. The young woman wants the young man to send a letter to his father telling him of their engagement. The young man is hesitant because he knows his father has already arranged for him to marry a young Igbo woman from his village, in accordance with traditional customs. Instead, he goes home to the village to inform his father in person.

Rising Action External conflict
Person against person – son and

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